Body Languague Secrets How to Spot a Liar

I am such a bad liar. I would like to lie, though~N. Imbruglia

Dear all, having watched “How to Get What you Want” on Sky One  last week I must confess I kinda of got glued to it. So yes I watched the next episode called “Body Language Secrets”. I am not too sure how to link this series  to personal development which is what my main blog is  all about hence I decided to publish it on here.  This show/series is  presented by Peter Collett, Dr Jack Lewis and Anjula Mutanda who are  experts in body language, neuroscience and social science. 

 P.S note the below information is based on what I have understood from this series. I had  not taken so much information down on this  occassion as they had cited a lot of examples to illustrate what they were talking about .So if you do have sky it’s worth watching. In view of this I have added  a bit more information.

 Sky One “Body Language Secrets” How to Spot a liar.

They started off by indicating that we all get lied to. .”It may sound  like a lie but lying is an integral  part of our daily life’”. We apparently lie to make ourselves feel better , to protect others , to manipulate others or just for the mere  fun of it. As a matter of fact lying  is apparently an essential human ability that helps us survive. And we are all experts at telling white lies that sometimes we don’t even know we are telling ..Interesting!

 Sky One “Body language Secrets”Programme aimed to show us 

1, How to spot a liar

2, How to pull

3, How to avoid being taken for a ride.

The main give away of a liar is in their body language   it is called leakage;  liars can’t help leaking more information  than they realise. So below are some signs to look out for;

 1, The Mouth – note clamping of the lips together;  it can be an attempt to unconsciously   conceal the true and prevent it from escaping or leaking out. Pushing of the tongue against the mouth is another clue ; sometimes liars may do this when asked a question they  don’t like in an attempt to unconsciously  push the true away .

 2, The Eye – here watch out for unwavering and unnatural movement of the eye.  People sometimes  fight a lot in their “minds”  when  they lie and overcompensate to the point of looking frozen. Some may even look like their whole body had just been injected with Botox. In addition, look out for rapid blinking ; this usually happens when the brain is working over time to remember  lies. It is that the more people think the faster they blink.

 3, The Hand-  A liar in a social situation will most likely keep their hands out of sight. If in sight may be fidgety,  or clenched up. Opens hands are generally associated with openness and honesty not closed ones

 4, The Face – liars will generally touch areas around their lower face such as the nose, chin in an attempt to conceal the truth when talking.

 Of course there are other  factors such as  tone of voice, defensiveness, Sarcasm and  many more to consider.

 The obscurity with lying is that the subconscious mind acts independently of our verbal lie, so our body gives us away. During a lie, the subconscious mind sends out nervous energy that appears as a gesture that can contradict what a person has said. Some people whose jobs involves lying , such as lawyers, actors, politicians  have refined their body gestures to the point where it is difficult to SEE the lie and people fall for it .

 It is amazing what  we give away with our body language as concealment of lies  may not be easy.However once you know what you are looking for its easy to spot a liar .it’s not obviously just about what people say but what they do. However we have to be aware that atimes in an attempt to spot a liar we need to be  aware of congruences and in what context before concluding.

 This programme looked at a dating event with twelve women and men speed dating- How to pull Section.

And here are a few tips they came up with, in a dating situation

•  Women are generally more attentive and are more likely to belief what they are told
• Women lie to make men feel better about themselves
• Men generally will keep their hands out of view when lying
• Men will produced lots of smiles, this is in pretence that they are agreeable and attentive to what you are saying
• When lying repetition is common, they say the same thing over and over again because they have not  the time to process new information.

While you  are at this section  you may want  to check out  How to Pull Your Ex-Back Here!

 One point I picked up and have not mentioned is the importance of comparing a person when they lie and when they tell the truth you simply look out for subtle  changes in body language. This can be an advantage to people in relationships.

 It  known that  women are however generally more perceptive than men. Women have the innate ability to pick up  and decipher non-verbal signals as well as having an accurate eye for detail. This may explain why few husband’s can lie to their wives and get away with it and while conversely most women can pull the wool over a man’s eyes without men realising  it .

 In conclusion,  it was a very interesting programme which I did enjoy. Lies shamefully seem to be a part of our daily lives but no one  want’s to be taken for a ride. Although I have put this post together I am no expect in this area and have shared what I have learnt via this the Television series “Sky one how to get what you what body language secrets”. I hold no responsibility  for anyone who chooses to apply this information. All information is shared for educational purposes only.

Reference ;Body Languague ;How to read other’s thoughts by their gestures. By Allan Pease